My Sex Party and Rendezvous Bag Must Haves

Why Every Swinger, Kinky and Non Monogamous Person Needs a Go-Bag

If you’ve ever done a last-minute overnight, house party, or weekend getaway and realized you forgot something vital. A toothbrush, lube, charger—you already know why a go-bag matters.

For people living poly, swinging, or active in the kink community, spontaneity is part of the lifestyle. You don’t always know when a night might turn into a morning.

This list fixes that. It keeps you fresh, comfortable, and prepared for whatever kind of play you’re heading into.

Think of it as your pleasure survival kit: Stay clean, hydrated, soft, and ready for anything.

1. Electric Toothbrush + Extra Heads + Travel Case

Keep an extra brush head packed just for the bag.Alert: Don’t brush right before oral. Freshly scrubbed gums can make it easier for bacteria and STIs to slip in. Freshen up, don’t scrub raw.

2. Mints (and Sour Candy Backup)

Minty breath is timeless—Altoids, Ice Breakers, Listerine strips, even dinner mints work. If mint feels too sharp, candy does the trick. I am a huge

Image: Kris eating way too much candy. As usual.

3. Netted Body Scrubber + Sugar Scrub

Quick, clean, exfoliated. Light or neutral scents keep it sexy without overwhelming your partners.

4. Thick, Creamy Body Butter

Soft skin just feels good to you and to anyone touching you. Shea or cocoa butter are old faithfuls, but I'm also a big fan of Hempz lotion.

5. Face Wash + Moisturizer Combo

Even kinksters have skincare routines. I keep:

• a Korean gel cleanser (gentle, low foam)

• niacinamide + vitamin C serum (brightens, calms)

• a 72-hour hydration gel moisturizer

  
  

6. Makeup Remover Wipes + Flushable Wipes

Easy, discreet cleanup. One for the face, one for everywhere else.

7. Lip Care Trio

Chapstick for daily use, gloss for shine, oil for soft lips that don’t quit.

Image: "Muah". Ink and watercolor by Kris.

8. Nail Clippers + File

Snags, hangnails, or a broken nail mid-scene? Not in this house.

9. Slide-On Shoes

Pool, hot tub, patio, quick dash to grab pizza—slide-ons save your feet and your dignity.

10. Earplugs (Two Pairs)

Shared spaces, loud parties, 6 a.m. birds—one pair always goes missing, so pack two.

11. Extra-Long Phone Charger

At least six feet. Outlets are never where you need them.

12. Condoms, Lube, and a Toy (or Two)

Keep your favorites clean, charged, and ready. Pack both latex and non-latex options if you’re playing with multiple partners.

13. Clothes That Actually Work

• Comfy panties

• Throwaway fishnets or lingerie you won’t mourn

• A dress + cardigan combo that works everywhere

• A bra if you aren't going home after.

  

  Kris and Bee comfy and cozy!!

14. Mini Pharmacy / Pill Case

A compact case with:

• Sleep aids

• Pain reliever

• Allergy meds

• Tums

• Any prescriptions you might need

  
  

How to Pack It All

Everything lives in a small overnight duffel by the door. After each trip, I restock what’s missing, wipe down toys, and recharge anything with a plug. The wipes and charger sit on top for easy grab-and-go access.

Why It Works

This setup kills the “I forgot…” panic and the awkward “do you have…?” moments. You show up confident, clean, and ready for connection instead of logistics.

Whether it’s a swinger weekend, an overnight, or a kink or sex party, having your go-bag packed keeps the focus where it should be: on pleasure, consent, fun and community.

What do you pack in your bag?

Xoxo

Kris

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